Today is my mother's birthday. She is now 76 years old.
Unfortunately my Mother and I do not live in the same country. So I can not pop by for a birthday visit or cook her a birthday dinner. These kind of things make me sad. I, simply put, miss her very much.
Also I feel bad because she has a heavy burden taking care of my father. He is younger then she but he has Alzheimer. Yes she has a nurse that comes every day and a doctor who comes once in a while. However it isn't the same thing.
Often I imagine what it would be like if they lived here. How much better I would feel just being able to check on them on a daily basis. Also how much easier it would be on my mother. Unfortunately my Father's health does not allow for him to travel.
She get's very lonely and a simply phone call from me just cheers her up more then anything. We talk for two hours when I call. Most of the time she tells me things she has told me the last time we talk. I let her because I know how much it means to her just to have a conversation.
She doesn't really have the abilaty to go to the house they own anymore. It isn't in the same town and she can no longer drive. I have asked her why she doesn't sell it but I know she wants me to inherit it someday. She only get's to the house once a year now. Many of her things are there still, including her books.
As we were talking she mentioned how much she misses her books and having something good to read. So I have decided to send her a book as a belated birthday present. I was thinking this would be a nice thing and I could do it for Easter, her anniversary, Mothers Day and Christmas as well. That would be five books spread out over one year. I think she would really enjoy that and it wouldn't be to expensive for me.
I officially offered for her to come live with us after my father passes as well. We have noway of knowing how long he will be with us of course. I do know that my mother is scared of living alone after he is gone though. This was just a small gift I could give her on her birthday. The promise that I wouldn't let her be alone. Simply wish I could do more for her.
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